This visit explains the nine major middle-years transitions including: Transitioning away from Childhood Structures Transitioning to Getting the Facts Right Transitioning from Assumed Trust to a Reasoned Trust Transitioning to Peer Influence Transitioning from Imagination to Reason Transitioning to Adoptive Emotions Transitioning to Hormone-Activated Bodies Transitioning from being Reminded to being Responsible Transitioning from Authority to Influence
Perhaps you have heard the old saying: “You are what you eat.” This session builds on a slightly different premise: “You are what you think.” Today we know with certainty that what you put into your mind affects the chemistry of your brain; and, as parents, what you put into your children’s mind affects the chemistry and construction of their brain, which will shape their thought-life and emotional responses for life. Session Two explains the neuro-science behind speaking words or life and death to middle-years children.
The middle-years period is a time when a child moves from an awakening to a full awareness of the significance of the group’s opinion. That is what brings about age-related peer pressure. The child from a distance wants to know, “What does the group think?” Now, your son or daughter wants to know, “What does the group think of me?” Session Three takes up the influence of peers and the power of family identity, and factors that influence both.
Here we take up the training to educating transition. One major variable influencing the training of children is the child’s capacity to absorb a lesson and understand its purpose. This is usually tied to age. In the middle-years parents must begin transitioning from training outward behaviour to educating the child with knowledge that leads to understanding and wise decision-making. Learning to educate a child through correction takes up the first half of Session Four. The second half looks at the preventative side of correction. There are many excellent methods of correction available to parents; but ultimately, the best form of parental correction is prevention, which requires plenty of parental interaction. In this section we take up a number of practical things parents can do to help encourage behaviour that needs no correction.
This session covers effective communication, how to get middle-years children ready for the many “what if?” moments that will soon invade their moral world, and a comprehensive discussion on parenting in the digital age. Included here is how to introduce technology to children, establish workable and safe boundaries, and how to keep children safe in a very aggressive cyber world. This section also includes the middle-years topic pool. Here, parents learn how to effectively deal with “poor attitudes,” how to manage early affections from the opposite gender, and most importantly, how to prepare a son or daughter for the physical changes that come during the middle-years, without giving too much or too little information, but enough to keep them safe and prepared.