What is the difference between outward fulfillment and inward fulfillment? What is the enemy to true fulfillment? Guy Finley, author of Intimate Enemy, grew up in a family with opportunities, social status and money. Outwardly, they lived a fulfilling life, but he saw dysfunction.Finley explains that focusing on the inward self and helping oneself is not selfish. The intimate enemy is fear, which is based on not knowing who we are and what is true, and making fear-based decisions leads to dishonesty, harming both ourselves and others.See also: Part 1