In which Lindsey discusses some of the varied types of sex shields like Dams, In-Condoms, and Out-Condoms.
In which Lindsey answers some of the most asked questions thus far.
In which Lindsey answers your questions with topics ranging from Period Masturbation and Safe Words, to Sexting and How Long Sperm is Viable After Ejaculation.
Dry Humping Saves Lives! It's true! Let's have a look at a few of the different forms of dry humping (or Frottage or Dubbing or Grinding or Scrumping) and talk about why they're safer sex.
In which Lindsey gives you a little history on the term "Heterosexual" and an example of how language is dynamic.
In which Lindsey shares her helpful suggestions for dealing with anger related to sexual injustices. One involves a circle; the other uses highlighters.
In which Lindsey answers some pressing questions.
In which Lindsey recommends some great books on sexuality, why she thinks they're great, and what meaning they carry for her.
In which Lindsey showcases some of the things she keeps around to keep her inspired.
In which Lindsey delivers her 5 favorite Asexuality experiences.
In which Lindsey tackles some of your questions about penis-centric dry humping, the future of sex, and many other topics.
In which Lindsey answers more of your questions like, "Are there male sex toys?" and "What's the difference between Bisexual and Pansexual?"
In which Lindsey (with help from guest model, Ellen Kuehl) discusses Consent. What it is, what it isn't, how it functions in different relationships, and advice for making sure everyone understands the shared circumstances.
In which Lindsey talks about her amazing trip to L.A. for CatalystCon.
In which Lindsey builds a vibrator at Catalyst Con.
In which Lindsey has a sit down with Sexgeekdom founder, Kate McCombs and talks about things like jobs, narwals, and symbols.
In this time of many youths in Japan and other countries abstaining from sex, Lindsey thought it might be a good time to remind everyone of the benefits of sex. YAY!
In which Lindsey talks about the Herpes, where it comes from, and how it infects people.
In which Lindsey talks about some of the ways to protect yourself against both spreading and contracting Herpes.
In which Lindsey talks about Withdrawal... Coitus Interruptus... Pulling Out! Is it a viable form of birth control?
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HOW WOULD YOU RESPOND TO THE QUESTION: "What would make your life more fulfilling?"
In which Lindsey talks about different paraphilias and how they are defined and disordered.
In which Lindsey and Nick talk about the new Sexplanations schedule and have a sit down to chat about the year that was 2013. ENJOY!
WELCOME TO 2014 and enjoy this video In which Lindsey answers some of your questions about how to do school.
We feel the title is fairly self explanatory.
In which Lindsey answers a few submitted questions and some of the most common Masturbation Questions she gets on a regular basis.
Since Lindsey is in Iceland, our special guest Nick Jenkins talks about Identity, how he identifies, and what it all means.
In which Lindsey recounts her experience at the Icelandic Phallological Museum.
You asked for it, you got it. The Penis!
In which Lindsey gives you some more info on condoms. Sizing, types, alternative uses, how they're made, good stuff!
In which Lindsey talks a little about the Comstock Laws, your Valentines, and the mail.
In which Lindsey answers some questions.
You've heard of an educated guess? How do things like that play in to sexuality? Let's chat about that!
In which Lindsey talks about having a big mouth and why that's sometimes really, really important.
In which Lindsey gives more of a back story and trade tips based on a recent interview.
In which Lindsey sheds light on many of the elements of attraction, like the Proximity Effect and Olfaction.
In which Lindsey lets you in on some flirting info.
In which Lindsey explains the reasons we feel uncomfortable with our sexualities and how our sex conflicts are resolved.
I care about the way we make decisions, especially those related to sexuality. Circumcision is a very difficult decision given the battling perspectives that leave no clear answer. This episode is intended to start the discussion of circumcision by describing how it is typically performed, which means with infant males. There will be a future video describing the situation for an adult and how as adults we can use our powers of curiosity to make healthy decisions. And my opinion (because it was asked for) is 'do not circumcise infants'. There is a very simple and minimally invasive technique called Pre-plex for adults who opt-in to the surgery with informed consent. This is my opinion as of August 29, 2014.)
In which Dr. Doe attempts to explain Dr. Kinsey's claim that he could predict whether or not a 16 year old boy would go to college based on his sex history!? The basis for this claim comes from Kinsey's study, Sexual Behavior in the Human Male.
This is a guide to having sex for the first time, or anytime. I think it is an adequate start but I've learned from all of you some excellent additions. Including something I think is very important to add, which is that your sexuality may not be in-line with the law and not breaking it could mean denying yourself some forms of sexual expression. In the words of terralynn9: While I completely understand the reasons for #1: Don't break the law, I would maybe say instead: be aware of the laws where you live and the consequences if you're caught breaking them, consider the reasons for the laws (are they to protect you? why?), and if you and your partner choose to go ahead anyway, make sure to be safe, sane and consensual. It wasn't that long ago that anal sex was illegal in Canada and the US (even between straight people), and it still is in some places. Homosexuality is punishable by death in some countries, but I wouldn't counsel homosexuals there to never have sex, just to be very careful about it.
This episode is probably the most dense of anything I've created on Sexplanations. WARNING. I think I did more research and script-writing than any other piece, even gender. Why? Because it is about the menstrual cycle and the monthly(ish) cycle is really a very sophisticated building construction project that involves more than the uterus. For me, understanding the process involved reading seven different textbooks (just the menstrual section), reading six different articles, watching other YouTube period educators teach, checking the etymology of all the clinical terms, drawing the cycles myself with annotations, pretending to be different characters in the cycle, and coming up with new female reproductive-related lyrics to Willy Wonka's Pure Imagination. Sadly you won't see all of this. You WILL have the four minute version of my take on the cycle. If it is confusing give it a few more runs-through and triangulate it with other sources. It is really quite cool when you have an understanding of what's going on.. at least it has been for me. #curious.
Have you ever wondered whether or not a person could get pregnant by having sex during menstruation? Now you'll know.
I asked my Twitter followers if they had any questions. This video is my responses to some of those questions and others.
Sometimes it's helpful to hear that your waning sex drive or lack of sexual curiosity is not the way it has to be; there are solutions when you're ready for them. This video compares bringing your sexy back to finding the love of driving again. There are lots of analogies, like talking on the phone, getting mail, even cleaning house that remind us we have so much of our trouble-shooting skill set in place, we simply need to apply it to the things that seem uh, expected of us by society to just know, because no one should be talking about them, shhh sex, shhhhhhh!
PCOS is the most requested topic for Sexplanations to cover. This episode doesn't cover everything there is to know about the disorder but it gives the curios a great start. At the end of the video I suggest dressing as a vulva for Halloween. All it takes it a hoodie. You can find the original outfit I wore in the the Vulva video on eBay if you'd like to bid on it and simultaneously raise awareness and support for PCOS research.
In which I attempt to answer the question: is it okay to be sexy?
I asked Tumblr to share their sex education horror stories and hundreds of people have responded with really awful experiences. This video is a small collection of some of the analogies used. I'll do a future video about the other ways that sex education hasn't been very healthy education later.
Acton Douglas has been a friend of mine for many years. This is a small part of his story being born female and transitioning to a happier, more fulfilling life as a "dude." This episode touches on the coming out process--sharing with this parents and employer his gender identity. A future episode will go more in depth about the transition process, specifically the experiences of body dysphoria and body euphoria.
At the end of Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban, credits role for quite a while and behind the names of the amazing people who contributed to the film is the Marauder's Map with active footprints. At one point there are two sets of footprints positioned face-to-face in what some call a blow-job position. I wanted to show that this is indeed very possible so in the spirit of giving, we've created a flavorful 100th episode.
We know that education is a solution to a lot of world suck. Great, I'm all for knowledge unless it is shame-laden lies. Too often sex education has become just that, shame, dishonesty, abuse of power, personal opinion, and malpractice. This week's episode shares some of the many, many sex ed horror stories I've heard and hopes to increase awareness about the problem and work more toward the solutions.
Over the last year I've been compiling some of my thoughts on improving masturbation through simple mostly free suggestions. Then I decided I wanted to make a coloring book to accompany these ideas and drew, well, monsters to act out these tips for you. There are 40 pages to this magical little book each with a Dr. Doe style recommendation for enhancing self-stimulation. I've shared some of the book here but you can read and color the actual thing by going to subbable.com/sexplanations, signing up to support our channel, and selecting the Masturbation Coloring Book perk from the options we've come up with to treat our fans.
In which Lindsey chats about a bunch of the varied methods for pregnancy prevention.
Sexplanations made a sweatshirt of the many terms we use to describe our sexual and gender identities. This video goes through the ones on the sweatshirt from pomo to fluid. There are many others our there so I hope you stay curious!
In which Lindsey introduces us to a pill that can prevent 90% of HIV transmissions when used properly. Who should use it? Find out.
In which Lindsey shares one guide on how to kiss along with a cross-cultural perspective of how it is certainly not the only way.
In which Lindsey answers your questions about kissing.
In which Elke of Mamalode and Lindsey of Sexplanations answer your sex questions including how to find your sexy, get energy, initiate sex, and bring up lactation play.
It's time to get dance fever with Lindsey! In this episode of Sexplanations, Lindsey talks about Kegels. What they are, how to do them, how to be safe, and why they're awesome!
In which I explore whether or not vaginal orgasms are really a thing and how to orgasm during penetrative sex, in case you were curious.
Today we present: Consent... Not That Complicated!
In this episode of Sexplanations, Lindsey uses her own life experience to talk about how to stay curious!
In which Lindsey shares some gratitude with everyone :)
In which Dr. Doe explains the terrifying nature of sex education in the United States.
In this episode of Sexplanations, Lindsey chats about Cunnilingus: Oral Sex on a Vulva. Then she, along with helpful hints from the people of Tumblr, Facebook, and Twitter, shares some ideas about how to make it better.
Shower thoughts have become one of my new favorite things as in don’t we know that saying tuna fish is like saying chicken bird and the roof of the mouth is more like the ceiling of your mouth? The internet is alive with these clever messages from the mind. This video is a collection of my very own, Dr. Doe-made sex in the shower, thoughts. ***I wanted to note that the first one actually is from a sexplaneteer who asked a similar question, last year. Matthew (the videographer in training) and I have plans to do a short film/Sexplanations about this very sentiment : I could wear male nipple pasties and go shirtless...
Have you ever wondered how semen really gets out of the body or what's happening when it doesn't?
What does that even mean, coming too quick? Here three suggestions on how to cope with social pressure to come on schedule and a list of tricks if its still your ambition to last longer.
Thank you to everyone for making these two years so special. You've inspired me, educated me, challenged me, supported me, and just made me feel oh so welcome into your lives. Since the traditional anniversary by gifts is cotton, my friends Duncan and Matthew put together this celebratory "Stay Curious" t-shirt to celebrate. And since I get the most energy from talking with all of you, this video is all made up of answers to your questions. Here's to many more years!
The flags are up, the shirts come off; banners, motorcycles, families, music, and pride march down the streets this June in celebration of their LGBT communities. How did these parades come to be? Why now? What was it like before?
I like answering your questions; they're all so good. 20
As requested by our donors, this is an episode on the effects of porn.
There is a lot of confusion about when to get a pelvic exam and what happens when you do. Hopefully this short video clears that up.
While I had Dr. Blake's attention, I took the opportunity to ask him questions about gynecology that many of you have shared with me. These are his responses, answers from someone I respect and appreciate but his is not the only perspective and certainly not all of the information there is to know about your bodies. Stay curious.
If any of these sites were to stop existing I'd be sad, really sad! So I've decided to share with you my favorites while they're still around. Please let me know which other sites are cool too. I'm curious!
An introduction to libido and how it may or may not change depending on the time or your life and what's going on in it!
In light of Laci Green's recent video about sex work, I'm trying to maintain the momentum of discussion and curiosity. This episode does not reflect the current picture of how prostitution exists in most situations. Instead it is a review of the industry in its purest form. Sex (consensual) for compensation (money/trade).
As many of you go back to school, I wanted to share a story from one of my first days teaching human sexuality. It was a lesson in humility, language, and examination. Essentially I learned that the ASL sign for penis isn't a crotch level jack-off motion and that the deaf community needs privacy like hearing community.
This is a quick tutorial in how to use rope to restrain someone's body. I chose to demonstrate Dragonfly Sleeves because this technique is simple, attractive, and very easy to remove.
This video is about one of the first and most interesting things I learned about sexuality.
Human relations can be really confusing especially the violent ones. Why. would. someone. hurt. us? This video is a response to the questions "what happened to me" and "what do I do?" I deliberated for a long time (months) about the steps, how I would organize a linear path to recover from trauma for you. What I decided is that it's not linear. We will each work through our hurtful experiences in unique ways. What I really want you to know are the resources in place to help you do the work. You're not alone. It's not your fault. There is work to be done and your deserving of the extra attention.
Jamison Green recently visited Missoula, Montana to speak at conference on transgender lives which meant I had the special opportunity to sit down with him on the red couch. This video is a excerpt from our time together. I was most impressed by his insights on trans healthcare and his commitment to increase awareness for the longterm safety of all genders.
Learn from sexologist Dr. Lindsey Doe all about the balls, what they're made of, how to care for them, and some of the ways to bring them pleasure. Sexplanations publishes new videos every week so subscribe and stay curious.
I've been asked whether or not people with high sex drives can be in successful relationships with people who have low or no sex drives since the beginning of my sexology journey. I was volunteering for a sex education website at 19 and my supervising editor asked for my thoughts on sex drive-discrepant partnerships. At the time I didn't have solid thoughts about it. I did know that there wasn't a one size fits all conclusion. Also, I knew that calling them "mismatched sex drives" was a big part of the problem. As I developed my understanding of sexuality and worked with people in these dynamics I came to learn that no sex drives or interests are the same. Just as our appetites are nuanced so are our libidos. The trick is not stress or see them as a mis-matching but to gather your wits and solve this like you would any other challenge of individuality. Different religious or political beliefs, different parenting styles, love styles, languages! If there's something workable for your unique relationship -- great! If there isn't that's okay too. Just try not to limit yourself to black and white thinking. Being together sexually or otherwise should always be a choice. Which means detaching from someone because of sexual incompatibility is not failure it is decision making.
Unrequited love -- loving someone without being loved in return. In this video I describe five types of unrequited love and I suggest ways to heal heartache.
I've done a lot of videos on blowjobs, but there's always more to give!
V for vagina earrings are a great reason to answer your sex questions.
Over a lifetime a person menstruates an average of 14 liters, an upward of 32 liters. That's an incredible amount of blood to manage and this video shares a least a dozen methods to do so.
How do the top five most common drugs affect your sex life? Learn how caffeine, nicotine, cannabis, OTC, and prescription drugs impact sex.
Don't you want to know the how, why, and benefits of moaning? And subscribe to Sexplanations for videos every Wednesday?
This episode was inspired by some great conversations I’ve had recently about going to the bathroom and specifically North Carolina’s legislation about public accommodations. I wanted to investigate for myself where bathroom culture started, to consider the historical context and intent of potty politics. I learned so much: the quantity of toilet paper I consume, the practices of other countries, and where bathrooms go their reputation for sites of sex crimes (men have sex with men when homosexuality was illegal). These lessons in particular aren’t in the episode but I mention them because they, like everything I did include, afforded me the knowledge to sexplain that our genitals truly have nothing to do with going to the bathroom except that they carry the urine we expel in them, or as I say in the video that we wipe front to back. My hope is that you continue to research and study bathroom history and politics, that you have curious conversations about the legislation in various states. My hope is that you go to the bathroom where you feel most comfortable and anyone sharing the facility is glad you’re there because they judge your presence on how clean you leave your stalls, not on whether or not they can see your balls.
Before seeking out professional help it can be helpful to determine the duration, context, and frequency of your sexual health challenges. The Three Dimensional Model is a helpful guide for determining how a problem affects you and what direction to take for additional care you deserve.
Hala Ken Telar Juvenil, a youth organization in Tijuana invited me to teach their community about sexuality but I spent most of my trip learning instead. I couldn’t help it. There were so many new experiences to have, so many stories to hear, and people to love. It was one of the best weeks of my life! This video may not encapsulate all of the magic, of course it doesn’t, hopefully though it conveys some of the incredible intimacy I had from participating in all aspects of self and place, because I looked beyond pretty stuff
There’s a Joe DeGeorge quotation going around the internet, “Tonight we feast on the labor of centuries.” Hank Green used it in a vlogbrothers episode and Risa Risarodil made it into artwork. For me, it describes how I feel about Sexplanations’ third anniversary! The reason we get to celebrate is because countless others were curious and brave and resilient. The seven I discuss in this episode are heroes. Heroes refuse status quo. They become the can we need. They go into battle without any intention of turning back. And not even for themselves. They do this for others. So that others in faced with unjust circumstances have access to much better outcomes.
This video is all about Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love which suggests love is a mixture of three components: intimacy, passion and commitment.
Last week we discussed love, commitment, intimacy, and passion. This week it's all casual encounters. They're not mutually exclusive just different.
In the next few days my grandmother will be turning 80. Before she does though I managed to get an interview with her about sexuality. She speaks about sex education as a child, dating as a college student, the decision to be a wife, birth control and then unexpected parenthood that gave her the opportunity to have sex talks with her own children. Hopefully this conversation encourages you to have conversations of your own with grandparents and elders. They’re important voices in learning about sex!
One of my kids recently taught me about honeypotting and it led to a lot of questions and answers regarding honey in general. This video is the result of a Dr. Doe rabbit hole, falling into investigation after investigation as my curiosity never ends. Honeypotting is deliberately using sex appeal to persuade someone into carrying out a personal or professional agenda. For this episode I put on some fake glasses (no lenses), padded my bra, and caked on the make-up (including red markered lips) to demonstrate.
Body Image is how we see ourselves, accurately or inaccurately. It's also how we relate to the perceptions we have about others. This video brings some awareness to the troubling state of body image in America and offers 10 tips on how to improve body image for ourselves and others.
I just figured out a super affordable way to get my favorite kind of condoms (ONE) and huge sampler packs to try many others. So much excitement!
One third of us will experience sexual abuse at some point in our lives. This episode of Sexplanations aims to increase awareness about the warning signs of sexual abuse in victims and perpetrators so you can look out for them in yourself and others.
Want to know how to take care of your anus?
Some sex lessons I've learned from my own body. I experience something like strange discharge or pain and have to learn from the mystery what's going on. I sure didn't learn from high school sex education that condoms may get lost in the vagina or that UTIs are more common after playful sex. Hopefully this video solves some of you mysteries and encourages you to solve others.
This video about the age of consent, specifically one young person's question about whether or not to wait until she reaches to have sex, is complicated. There are many nuances to the law depending on where you live and the law itself can be harmful when it's intent is to help.
For a long time I've wanted to talk about sex shame on this channel. How many people experience it, how often, and in what ways. I think it is the number one cause of sexual dysfunction and dis-ease. I asked people on Facebook and Twitter to share their experiences of sexual shame to address them more collectively and received hundreds of messages describing shame from family members, friends, organizations, teachers, and medical providers. People referred to body shame, shame about gender, relationships, prowess or lack of. Some of them felt too ashamed to disclose the shame. This episode is for all of us to recognize what's happened and why we have the feelings we do. It's also to continue the process of letting the shame go -- setting it on fire -- talking it out with a therapist.
I was asked a question that I didn't know the answer to. So, I did some research and found anal sex doesn't /cause/ prolapse of the rectum but it can contribute to it if you're not careful and thoughtful.
Warts are caused by HPV, a virus with over 100 different strains. About a third of them are sexually transmitted. Some of those cause warts, some cause cancer, others don't have symptoms and you may not even know you have them. So, do you? Do I? Stay curious.
This episode was inspired by a question I received. It lists 100 reasons people might experience delayed ejaculation (positive, negative, wanted, untentional etc.)
A special THANK YOU to all of you who submitted videos sharing your thoughts on how sex feels! I had a lot of fun making this video with you.
When I saw the most recent Spiderman film, I was determined to make about video about how they referred to his spidey sense as a peter tingle. I ordered a suit online, spent weeks studying erection physiology, then made up my face with bushier eyebrows, side burns, and jaw lines that I accented with hot chocolate because that's what I had available at the time. I would say that 37 year old me does not make a good adolescent or man but I had fun and I learned a lot! Thanks for letting me play around on this channel and express my silly and nerdy as much as I want. You're amazing!
What's the difference between sex and masturbation? Is one better than the other? How have I, Dr. Lindsey Doe, navigated my relationships with intercourse and masturbation? Am I a monster?
I asked for your questions. Here are the answers.
I got to visit WattsTheSafeword in San Francisco and ask them some of the BDSM-related questions left in the comments from the last Ask Lindsey episode. Big thanks to Amp and Kristofer for sharing their experiences and knowledge with me. I enjoyed myself thoroughly and learned some things too!
Jenny hosts a channel called Sciencemom that helps to increase science curiosity in kids. She's smart and kind and gentle and I've enjoyed learning about her sexual experiences. This year I sat down with her to put on record how her sexuality changed from a Latter Day Saints lifestyle to one separate from the church. New underwear, a more balanced power dynamic, post-childbirth pleasure. I hope you enjoy this endearing conversation as we wrap up the year.
Last year I attended a kink affirming street festival in San Francisco. This video is about what I learned and is intended to inspire even more compassion and curiosity in 2020. Thank you to the many people who let me share their images and thank you to everyone who makes Sexplanations possible.
Danielle and Celeste are the leading experts and founders of Somatica bodywork.
In the last Ask Lindsey episode I invited people to put their sex questions in the comment for me to answer in a future episode. Here we are.
Some of you fangirl over me. I fangirl over Midori. She's an artist, author, educator, and expert in sexuality. I've met up with her twice now and feel so fortunate we were able to record and share our talk with the world.
On March 9th, 2020 Mexican women will be removing themselves from society to show what it would be like if feminicides and other acts of injustice and violence towards them continue. I don't usually post time-sensitive content or current affairs but being a woman in Mexico with privilege and a voice, I wanted to do my part to increase awareness and activism.
Images for this episode are mainly from Wikipedia. The penises featured are larger than average because that is what we were able to access not because we have any favoritism toward big dicks. Keep in mind that penises and foreskins come in many many different sizes, shapes, and colors. We just weren't able to show this diversity. I was not willing to crowdsource dick pics to be more inclusive. ;o)
I'm working really hard on an episode about phone sex so that we're all we have a safer sex strategy during social distancing. It will be a long and comprehensive lesson so it's taking me more time than usual to put together. I'm excited though!! and so grateful that I have this other episode of magical fun-making Amp and I made while I was in San Francisco last year.
In this episode Dr. Lindsey Doe explains phone sex -- what it is, how to do it, troubleshooting, and a run through of dos and don'ts.
There are currently 1,600 people in this world who actively support the on-going accessibility of sex education through patreon.com/sexplanations. They make it possible for others to have this show for free. Really! Sexplanations is currently demonetized meaning we receive zero funding from YouTube for the content we create.
It is important to know what to do if you need birth control after having sex. This video discusses four approaches to prevent pregnancy after sex and addresses the difference between emergency contraception and abortion. They're not the same.
I'm sex curious too. This episode is about some of the ponderings in my mind and an invitation to be curious /with/ me.
When I was working on the episode about sexual curiosities, I asked my friend what his curiosities about sex were. He said he was curious about the strapless strap-ons I've shown in past videos, do they work? So to investigate and celebrate the birthday of someone very dear to me, I present off-camera trials of toys that go in and out.
A few months back when I was working on an abuse case I was encouraged to reach out to Katie Petersen regarding law enforcement. We spoke at length about my case and then she shared how important it is for adults to talk openly with children about sexual abuse as a form of abuse prevention and protection. I listened curiously and loved what Katie taught me. So much so that I asked her to talk with me more on camera so you can learn too.
I'd like to add a definition of cunt to the dictionary that includes the overlap or intersection in a Venn diagram by 2023. Please help.
For a long time I had been looking for resources to help pedophiles process their attraction to minors and reduce the likelihood of them perpetrating. Pedophilia is a type of paraphilia. It's not a choice anymore than any other sexual orientation but acting on it has many harmful consequences. This week I learned from a sexpla(i)naut on Patreon about VirPed.org, a website which connects pedophiles to resources and support so they can safely talk out their desires without acting on them. It's a triggering topic, typically fraught with pain but today, I'm overfilled with joy that things can get better for everyone.
How do you overcome the loss of erection when a condom is presented? What are the tricks for getting up, getting one one, and getting off? Why do we lose erections? What options are there for safer sex?
At the very beginning of Sexplanations, eight years ago, I stood in front of a dry erase board in one of the first classrooms I'd ever taught in. It was this delicious experience for me that also that ended up really popularizing Sexplanations. People got to learn for the first time about the clitoral hood, crura, and smegma. They realized how awful so-called sex education is in most of the world and how valuable it can be to stay curious.
Someone asked me once how I determined which topics to cover. I answered that I have all these topics in my mind but one at a time they move to my heart and I get really curious and passionate enough to research and teach -- to sexplain. This is what happened with the registry. There wasn't a personal experience or an audience question, it just shifted from my head to my heart and had to come out.
I'm kind of frazzled in this episode because something unexpected happened. I was planning on reading a book to you that I had gotten from the library but part way through the filming I realized I was not comfortable showing you the content and made this second video to explain why.
I'm curious to hear your reviews and what cool inventions Sexpla(i)nauts come up with to make this product even better. My latest curiosity is whether or not you could safely strap-in a dildo for a receptive form of f**king. Staying curious ;o)
In December of 2021 Sexplanations/Dr. Doe went on hiatus for an undetermined amount of time. In fact, it was possible that the channel would not publish content again and Dr. Doe would retire completely from sexology. After a year away, a lot of time with dogs, and major work on healing, Sexplanations and your host Dr. Lindsey Doe are back to explain. This episode shares what happened in the last year and suggests there may be more in the future.
This week, Dr. Doe answers some of your questions that were sent in via Twitter. Those she doesn't answer, or answer comprehensively, are on the docket as future episodes. Stay curious.
Stay in the know with these 30 sex terms. Dr. Doe talks about Fraysexual, Rizz, Leg Booty, On a Thing, Side, Breadcrumbing and much more!
Dr. Doe reads part of Chapter 3 of Charles Panati's 'Sexy Origins and Intimate Things' because sometimes the words from the source convey the message best.
Learn how blowjob bruises or palatal petechiae can clue dentists into your sexual proclivities and how to keep up dental hygiene when deepthroat-induced stomach acid goes after your enamel. Big thanks to Dr. Mark Rigby for the smarts involved in this episode and to the sexpla(i)nauts who make it possible.
What happens when a penis breaks? And how do you deal with it?
Deepfakes were first created in the 1990s. The controversy now is due to the fact that technology has made them almost undetectable. People worry about their reputations, professions, relationships, and safety because their likeness can be easily manipulated to look like they are doing and saying things that they haven’t done or said. And when most deepfakes are pornographic in nature this becomes a sexual discussion. What are the ethics, legalities, rights involved? How do freedom of expression, artistic endeavors, and accessibility factor in? Is regulation even possible?
Comments on past videos mentioned that my old appearance with longer, natural colored hair was missed. The short, really short magenta cut isn't the sex educator people know, or find themselves attracted to. Some people. Appearance does matter but maybe not in the ways we think. It has a long history of changing and that's true for me too. Humans throughout time have molded their look to express themselves. Sometimes it relates to gender, sometimes to their sexuality. Sometimes it's to look different than their mother's generation. I just happened to do what works for me at the time. My look isn't my sexuality but I see sex in appearance often and thought you might like to know. We're complex, stay curious. Also, a big reason why I made this episode was to show looks aren't intrinsically gendered. Men wear wigs, makeup, dresses, and nail polish. Maybe more comprehensive and accurate education for the haters will lessen/stop the bigotry.
Based on my experiences and the expert feedback from a colleague (Blake), this episode lays out the dos and don'ts of attending a drag show. In a political battle over the existence of drag, people seem to have lost their manners. And I just want to make sure we get back to treating performers and others in our lives well. A big thank you to Blake for doing this work in his community and sharing wisdom with ours, to those you who share your talents, and to the many who support expression. I'm a fan.
I haven't been in a position to create much lately but really wanted to share this episode about a famous suspension bridge north of Vancouver, Canada -- the Capilano Bridge. The video explains why I took interest in this tourist attraction and what the experiment conducted there which influences our understanding of sexual arousal. It also features cute dogs and the video-making assistance of my daughter. My apologies that the research is cishet.
I was speaking with an older white man about fawning -- one of four responses humans have to stressful situations including fight, flight, and freeze. He appreciated learning about what people go through in this way and the increase in his awareness to do things differently. He asked that I make a video about it to educate more people (men) about it and so I have. There is some trepidation in sharing this because of the potential to offend people and the backlash. It's definitely a different style than usual -- more critical, more assertive. My hope is that over all these years together, I've built rapport with you to trust my intentions and assume goodwill. Even if it doesn't fit with your beliefs, fawning is something we can stay curious about.
I've been working on this episode for over six months, researching and waiting, and thinking and laughing. "Should" questions or statements are a very powerful way we organize our judgment of ourselves and others, a way of saying, there's shame if you don't behave the way I think you /should/. I don't like them. And I don't like being on the receiving end.
After Em sat down with me and shared her experiences with curiosity, gender, orientation, and relationship dynamics, I invited her to switch seats with me and ask anything she'd like. At the beginning she gave me some softies (easy asks) but then I got a tear jerker. I don't know that there's a lot here, I haven't already shared on one platform or another but I think there's something valuable about it coming out of me again. It must be important.
IS SEX...? Sometimes I wonder what people are curious about on the world wide web. What do they ask about sexuality? What are they concerned about or interested in? And so, with the help of predictive text, these are the questions autogenerated and the short answers from your online clinical sexologist. Stay curious.
I wanted a little challenge. Can I make a connection to sex from any random word or phrase? I asked the videographer to say a term without any preparation and I verbalized my train of thought without any scripting or time to really contemplate. It was exciting and taught me something about myself now. Whereas I used to connect everything to sex, I now seem to connect everything to Sexplanations. This is telling. What it suggests is that sex isn't my passion like it used to be. I'm passionate specifically about Sexplanations -- an accessible sex education resource that has a willing and engaged audience that makes the world a better place.
I needed another good cry and it felt important to record and share those tears with you. I'm not embarrassed or in danger. I'm okay. I'm all sorts of human feelings and that will continue to be the case. I hope. Thank you for creating this space for me. I hope that you experience the same sense of shame-free love when you need a good cry too.
I'm trying educate in a world that needs sex education but fears allowing or supporting it. This is a commentary on that effort. I'm deeply grateful to those of you who invest in sex education either by commenting, watching, sharing, and or financially investing in the work. It means a lot.
This is the story of Sexplanations. This video was originally a speech for one of the most well-known talk series at one of the most prestigious schools in the world. I was invited to speak about “how to bring the field of sexuality closer to people, and the role that sex education can, or should, play in that process.” I reflected on my experiences teaching at a university and online, anecdotes for the woes and triumphs of my field.
I'm so glad to teach you how to use a speculum. Even if you don't apply the knowledge to actually using a one, you'll have more insight to sexuality, the experiences of others, and another marker of your ongoing curiosity.
This episode of Sexplanations is a "thoughts from places" style narrative in which Dr. Doe shares her experience with widespread bullying. It also includes a second story about how an earlier attempt to derail sex education led to increased access to sex education for a much larger audience.
Wrinkles and other marks of time aren’t often paired with sexuality in society so it is natural to struggle with aging and helpful to rediscover my body. In this episode of Sexplanations my friend Elvis helped me sort though this. By photographing me and holding my aging body in time and space he enabled me to see me through a new lens. He helped me increase visibility, connect with this unfamiliar aged Lindsey, and detach from social pressures to hide my changes or hibernate my sexuality.
Support from this sponsorship as well as any tips you leave in the comments on this episode will go to Maia for all of her amazingness. She's truly special and I think we're better students of sexuality because of the role she's played in our education. Thank you, Maia!
I think before I could say anything about sexuality I needed to acknowledge the state of humanity (with a sexual example). Like you, I'm affected by the happenings in the world and sometimes feel that going on with my life and job, saying nothing about what we're experiencing would be disingenuous. The world is hard. Life is lifing. Sexuality still matters. I want to teach you and learn from you. And this is a way that I found to reboot myself which may or may not appeal to you. I can only hope that you stay curious. This video is my effort problem solve the Curse of Knowledge/Expertise. I suggest the tools polyglots use when communicating and try to give some visual entertainment while reading the voiceover so it's not sterile. It is low production but my enthusiasm for the topic is all there. Sexual health is meaningful and I'm here as much as I can be for our growth in/through this.
In which Lindsey breaks down our approximate hours making Sexplanations as she talks about Subbable and how you can help us continue our work. You can support us at: https://subbable.com/sexplanations
In which Lindsey, Lou Winkler, Peter Musser, Nick Jenkins, and Zach Anner say HELLO from VidCon. Nick needs more time with the Gender Video so we did this. ENJOY!
Special thanks to Derick and Mike for filming, Desrea and Rhonda for dumping the water on me, and Nick for editing after my futile attempts to use iMovie. I think you're all wonderful!
It's been a fantastic year for us here at Sexplanations. But that doesn't mean that things always went smoothly. ENJOY!
In which Lindsey and Nick answer your questions about the year that passed and the one to come. There's even a Doh-moment at then end where Lindsey learns a little more about Buffy.
In this episode of Sexplanations, Nick says goodbye and we start to prep for new things and it's all gonna be okay. :)
