Irwin Gootnick M.D., continues his discussion on behaviors we have that we may want to change, but find it difficult to do so. Most of us tend to repeat unpleasant circumstances over and over again because we are motivated by forces we are unaware of. When we cannot make the changes we want, we tend to feel guilty.He feels that every one grew up with flawed parents and flawed siblings, and that we tend to blame ourselves if something went wrong. The motivations for unwanted behaviors are discussed, their roots, the long-term effects, and advice for potentially resolving them to create the behaviors to you want.