Are your expectations unrealistic? Do you want your partner to have more income, more status, more ambition, be an international traveler, etc? That's all good and fine, yet Drs. Judith Sherven, Ph.D. and James Sniechowski, authors of The New Intimacy, reveal keys to assist singles in meeting each other's true selves, prince charming or not.Often people enter the dating scene with unconscious fantasies of what it should be like or what their partner should be like. These are often extensions of their own view, a lens through which they interpret their partner. True intimacy, points out Dr. Sniechowski, is the compassion and understanding dating partners bring to creating a “we space” from the very first date.