Gail Prince, author of Soul Dating to Soul Mating, specializes in coaching relationships, authentic dating, and for those who choose it, being comfortably single. You might ask what the biggest error is that people make when they put themselves out there looking for a partner. Gail says it is simply not making themselves approachable enough. From negative self talk, to being overly identified with the way we appear, many of us listen more to our mental chatter than to the what's going on in the present moment. At a deeper level, dating is a chance to meet others when you have identified clearly for yourself what your values are and what is meaningful to you.