Spiritual Divorce takes a time of devastation and helps us to look at how we can grow and evolve from it. One of the most important steps in Spiritual Divorce is to take a relationship inventory. According to Debbie Ford, a relationship forces you to ask yourself what you bring to the relationship and what your own beliefs about yourself are.In order to transform your relationship you need to find the gift and the blessing in your relationship. Until we see the gifts in our past/present relationship we will always remain negatively connected to that person and we won't have the freedom to walk away if necessary.